Have you ever walked into a room and forgot what you went in to get? I have!
What if you forgot what you were supposed to be doing throughout the day
Someone yelled at you each time you forgot?
Would you feel -
Like you couldn't do anything right?
This is just a small example of what is it is like to have ADHD.
How can you help your child? Consider using the following strategies -
1) Provide one-step instructions
Providing one-step instructions increase the likelihood that your child will be successful. Make sure to PRAISE him each time he follows your instruction.
If you provide more than one instruction at a time, he will likely forget to complete all the steps. More than one step can lead to frustration, confusion, and yelling.
"Please put your shoes in the closet."
You are telling your child exactly what to do. She is more likely to be successful because she will remember the instruction.
"Please put your shoes in the closet, put your clothes in the basket and make your bed."
She may forget what she is supposed to do on her way to complete the second step. If she remembers the first step and forgets the next, she is likely to get in trouble.
2) Praise immediately and often
Provide praise immediately after your child completes a task. For example, you can say, "Thank you for listening! I really like how you put your toys in the box."
The more you praise your child for following through with tasks, the more likely he will continue to follow through.
3) Be present
When you are near your child, you can provide a brief reminder and praise her immediately after she completes the task.
If you give a direction from another room, she may become easily distracted and less likely to follow through.
4) Use pictures or written reminders
Provide verbal and visual reminders. For example, I draw a picture of what my youngest needs to do and I write out instructions for my oldest. They can refer back to the card or the board when they get off track.
5) Make up a song
Have your child sing a song containing the direction on his way to completing the task. For example, singing "I'm going to put my blocks in the box" or "I'm giving the dog some water." (and it's kind of fun:)
Hang in there, My Friend! This parenting thing isn't easy. I KNOW.
Holly Blanc Moses
Mom/Psychologist/Behavior Analyst WHO GETS IT